TRAUMA: Remember What Happened. Honor the Self. Let Go of the Lie

By Mama Tiff

We all want to live in the present moment.
To be here. To be now. To feel joy, connection, peace.

But trauma steals that from you.

Because when unprocessed trauma is running underneath your system—whether in your mind, your body, or your energy—you’re not really here. You’re reacting to shadows. You’re managing pain that hasn’t even been acknowledged. And no matter how much you meditate, journal, or say the right affirmations, the present moment can’t feel like home until the lies trauma planted are cleared out.

Trauma robs you of the present. And the present is where joy lives. So if you want your joy back, your power back, your life back—this is where you start.

🕊️ The Truth That Dropped In

Trauma doesn’t just “go away.”
It doesn’t disappear when you ignore it, bypass it, or shame it into silence. It gets stored.
In your body. In your energy. In your mind. And when it’s stored, it creates hell.

So many of us were never taught how to deal with trauma—especially if it didn’t come in some big obvious package like abuse or war.
Sometimes it’s the quiet betrayals. The subtle invalidations. The childhood moments that got twisted in your nervous system and stored as proof that you weren’t safe… or worthy… or enough.

Here’s the truth I woke up with today—loud and clear: Healing trauma requires three sacred steps.

1. Remember What Happened

This is not about reliving your pain or drowning in it.
It’s about reclaiming reality.

So many people say, “Why go back? Why remember?”
Even my husband Jack, when we first met, used to say, “Why do I have to feel my feelings?”

Because if you don’t remember what happened—if you gaslight yourself into numbness—you abandon the part of you who lived it. And that abandonment continues the trauma.

2. Honor the Self

Once you remember, you have to honor what that younger version of you felt.

Not bypass it. Not say, “I should’ve known better.”
But to say: “You were real. What you felt was real. What happened wasn’t okay—and I believe you.”

This is the moment of restoration. It’s the moment when you come back into your own arms. Because the moment you honor yourself, you stop handing your power to the story that broke you.

3. Let Go of the Lie

All trauma plants a lie. That you’re not worthy. That it was your fault. That you’re too much, not enough, unlovable, unsafe.

And if you don’t find that lie and get it out, it will run your life.

Because here’s the truth:
You will either create a reality from the lie…
Or you will build a perfect-looking façade to hide it.

You’ll paint over it with success, niceness, perfectionism, or caretaking—trying to protect yourself (and others) from the rot underneath.

But babe, the lie doesn’t disappear just because you covered it up with light.
It festers. It plagues you. And no matter how beautiful the surface looks, the cracks will show—especially when life presses hard.

If the trauma lives in your mind, you’ll unconsciously create a reality based on that false belief.
If it lives in your energy, your life force gets siphoned—leaving you tired, uninspired, disconnected from your own magic.
If it lives in your body—especially your fascia—it will eventually show up as chronic pain, fatigue, inflammation, or illness.

So we don’t go back to the past to pity ourselves.
We go back to set ourselves free. To clear the distortions.
To choose again.

This is the Queen’s Path

To be sovereign is to no longer be run by what happened to you.
To honor your past, but not be owned by it.
To remember. To reclaim. To rewrite.

This is the work. This is the healing. This is your power.

This is how joy returns.
This is how you finally live now.

THE QUEEN’S PATH