Motherhood Is Sacred, and Sometimes It Sucks

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day, and I’m sitting here thinking about what it means to spend more than 30 years loving, raising, protecting, and worrying about children.

Six children. Three grandchildren. Decades of giving pieces of myself away in the name of motherhood.

And honestly? Nobody is ever truly prepared for what motherhood asks of a woman.

Not the sleepless nights. Not the fear. Not the loneliness. Not the way your nervous system never fully relaxes again. Not the heartbreak of watching your children suffer while knowing you can’t protect them from life itself.

Motherhood destroys you and rebuilds you at the same time.

There’s no perfect mother. No moment where you suddenly feel fully ready. There’s only love — and the hope that somewhere along the way, you learn not to abandon yourself while caring for everyone else.

The Truth Women Aren’t Supposed to Say

Sometimes motherhood is exhausting.

Not because mothers don’t love their children deeply — but because women were conditioned to disappear inside motherhood and call it noble.

Give everything.
Sacrifice constantly.
Carry everyone emotionally.
Put yourself last.

And then many women wake up later in life wondering:
Where did I go?

I’ve listened to countless mothers cry because they feel invisible after spending decades giving everything they had.

Their bodies.
Their youth.
Their dreams.
Their identity.

And somewhere along the way, many women stopped belonging to themselves.

Motherhood and the Feminine

The world has spent thousands of years minimizing the feminine while depending entirely on it.

Every human being on this planet came through the body of a woman.

That matters.

Motherhood is sacred.
It’s beautiful.
It’s brutal.
It’s exhausting.
It’s life-changing.

And mothers deserve to be seen as whole human beings — not just caretakers for everyone else.

This Mother’s Day

Tomorrow I’ll hug my children.
I’ll hold my grandchildren.
I’ll sit beside the family I gave my heart to.

And I’ll also be thinking about every woman who gave everything she had while the world barely noticed.

If nobody else sees you, I do.

Happy Mother’s Day.

— Mama Tiff
Queen Taboo & Channel of The Blue