How to Be the Healer When You’re Falling Apart

By Mama Tiff

It’s been months since I last posted. About 10 months ago, my mom passed, and I’ve been navigating an intense wave of grief and trauma ever since. It’s strange how the death of someone in your life can unlock past wounds you thought were long gone.

During this time, I’ve been focusing on myself and my work. As a psychic, medium, healer, and channeler, I’ve had to hold it together enough to continue my international work and take care of myself. I’m doing better, though still working through things, and now I’m ready to speak.

For all the women on their journey back to themselves... that is the Queen’s Path, and that’s what I want to talk about today: truth and trauma.

Women are natural healers. It’s in our birthright. You might be healing through your job, as I do, or simply by being a loving neighbor or friend. Here’s the truth: every healer has trauma to process, and it’s not being discussed enough.

I’m tired of spiritual bypassing, toxic positivity, and “woo-woo” solutions that ignore the real work. There are healers out there going through massive amounts of trauma... and it’s coming to the surface now because the frequencies of the Earth have shifted. What we’ve stored in our bodies that no longer serves us or the greater good is rising, demanding attention.

So, what do you do when you’re working as a healer but also processing trauma?

You feel it. You cry.

Cry on your bathroom floor. Cry in your bed surrounded by your favorite pillows and blankets. Cry until your body is done releasing. Then, get up, step into your power, and continue showing up for others. Show up for your neighbor. Show up for your aging parent. Show up for your clients or community. Cry after. Repeat as needed.

Crying isn’t weakness... it’s essential. It releases toxic energy from your body and changes your brain chemistry, helping you restore balance through oxytocin and other supportive chemicals. Feeling it fully is part of the healing process.

This is the Queen’s Path. Feel it. Release it. Keep showing up. And know that it’s okay to fall apart, as long as you also rise.

The Queen’s Path

If you’re on the Queen’s Path, leave a 👑 in the comments and show me your presence.