Boundaries, Babe

By Tiffany Walker

Hello, Queen.

I want to share something I wish someone had told me years ago when I first stepped out as a healer. If I’d known this sooner, I could’ve saved myself months of burnout, resentment, and lying in bed wondering what the hell just happened.

Let’s talk boundaries.

When Jack and I first started our business, we were doing everything we could to help people. We hosted a seminar for thirty dollars. We fed everyone lunch. We taught mindset, energy, healing, all the things. And at the end, we invited people to coach with us and said the phrase that almost destroyed me:

“Pay what you can.”

Let me tell you right now…
When you say “pay what you can,” people will hand you the least amount humanly possible.

I had one session that lasted three hours and the woman paid me five dollars. Five. Meanwhile I was paying rent, paying for an office, paying for food, paying for life. And on top of that, I used my spiritual gifts in a deep way that day.

The next 48 hours?
I was in bed. Completely tanked. Couldn’t function. Didn’t understand why.

I reached out to my medium friend back east and said, “What is happening? Why do I feel destroyed after helping someone… and why am I getting five bucks for it?”

She asked me one question that changed everything:

“Tiffany, what are you worth?”

I told her.
She said, “Then why aren’t you charging that?”

My answer: “Because I don’t think people will pay it.”

And she said something I will never forget:

“If you don’t charge what you’re worth, your body will keep paying for it.”

It clicked.
After months of undercharging, over-giving, and literally getting sick, I finally understood.

There’s this old belief floating around that if you have spiritual gifts, you shouldn’t charge.
Really?
You pay a dentist to fix your teeth.
You pay a mechanic to fix your car.
But you shouldn’t pay a healer to fix your energy and help you come back to life?

No.

So I stopped undercharging.
I started asking for what I was worth.
And everything shifted.

Because here’s the truth:

If you think you’re worth little, you’ll charge little.
As you see the difference you make, you’ll raise your prices.
And you should.

Women with powerful gifts are meant to be abundant.
Not depleted.
Not resentful.
Not sick in bed for two days after helping someone.

I wish someone had told me this sooner.

So here it is for you, loud and clear:

Charge what you’re worth.
Honor your gifts.
Protect your energy.
Set boundaries.

Or you’ll end up exhausted, resentful, and wondering why you feel like hell.

Boundaries, babe.
You’re a queen. Start acting like one.

The Queen’s Path.